B 3 May 1610 | Manor Holway, Cattistock, Dorchester, England
D 16 November 1694 | Stamford, CT, USA
M 1644 (Rebecca Goodyear) | Stamford, CT, USA
M 1675 (Joanna Boyce) | Stamford, CT, USA
John Bishop was the second paster of the First Congregational Church of Stamford, Connecticut and served 50 years from 1644 to 1694. He first arrived in the New World in 1640 in Taunton, Massachusetts. Soon after arriving in Stamford, Connecticut he married Rebecca Goodyear and they had 10 children, four of which died in infancy. Rebecca was the first child of Stephen Goodyear, Deputy Governor of New Haven Colony, and direct ancestor of Charles Goodyear who started Goodyear Tires.
An excerpt from the larger document "History of Bristol County Massachusetts, with Biographical Sketches of Many of its Pioneers and Prominent Men." This excerpt focuses on Tauton, MA and schoolmaster John Bishop.
This text file contains the births, marriages, and deaths of Bishops in Stamford between 1641 and 1797. The entries in Huntington's Registration are listed in chronological orderby individual family unit.
A Record of the Achievements of her People in the Making of a Commonwealth and the Founding of a Nation. Including details of the Bishops in Stamford.
In 1734, forty-six planters on the west side of the Norwalk river petition for a new society. The next notice taken of this project, as far as records show, was simultaneously in Stamford and at the May session of the legislature, in 1736. Sixty-nine petitions, representing eighty families, and a list of L5,580, made a formal request to be incorporated as an ecclesiastical society by themselves. The petition was negatived, only to be renewed in October of the same year, by fifty-six men. The urgency of the petitioners led to the appointment of a special committee to examine their claims. In May 1737 the committee report favorably, assigning as proper boundaries of the society the Five Mile river on the east, and the Noroton on the west...On the west side of the parish, to separate it from the older society of Stamford, they define, as the western-most limits of Middlesex, "an old chimney about two and a half miles east of the Stamford meeting house," and "so to run a strait line midway between Stephen Bishop's house and David Dribble's house," and thence to where the Noroton crosses the Canaan line.
Sept. 19 - Committee for the safety for the town, appointed agreeably to recommendations of the continental congress, Col. Davenport, Esq., Benj. Weed, Esq., Amos Weed, Charles Weed, Israel Weed, Nathan Lounsberry, Thadeus Bell, Stephen Bishop, Deodate Davenport, Charles Smith and James Young. Witness: Sam. Jarvis, clerk.
A Catalogue of the Names of the Early Puritan Settlers of the Colony of Connecticut; with the time of their arrival in the Country and Colony, their standing in society, place of residence, condition in life, where from, business, etc. Many Bishops listed starting page 241 (p 232 in document).
An Account of the Trial in 1692 of a Woman from Stamford, Connecticut Who Was Accused of Being a Witch by Ronald Marcus. Unlike the more famous Salem Witch Trials, the Stamford cases ended in acquittal. Some involvement from the Rev. John Bishop and Stephen Bishop, Sr.
John Bishop History
On May 3, 1610, John Bishop was baptised at the Anglican Church of Saints Peter and Paul in Cattistock, Dorchester, Co., Dorsetshire, England. His parents were William and Alice (Dunning) Bishop. Their home was the ancient manor of "Holway" about a mile north of the village where the church and school are located. The above appears in "The History and Antiquities of the County of Dorsetshire" by Hutchins. Volume IV. Other farms in the same area, owned by members of the Bishop family were "In-Park," "West Holway," "Lower Holway," "Metford," "North Chalmington," "Chalmington," "Chalmington," and possibly others. Total property in excess of 1000 acres.
John Bishop, born and baptized at Cattistock, May 3, 1610 (7th son of William and Alice) received his B. A. degree at age 20 from Balliol College, Oxford, and June 1632. His M.A. degree was received 15 April, 1635. As a young man, he decided to migrate to New England and settled in Taunton, Massachusetts where he was a schoolmaster and owned his own land, in 1640. He went to Stamford, Connecticut in 1644 to serve as minister of the First Church there, when a delegation from the Church persuaded him to go with them. They walked the long distance through the wilderness to Stamford. It seems that he had completed his studies for the ministry before his calling there. John Bishop, pastor of the church, married Rebecca Goodyear in Stamford, and had eight sons and two daughters. He served the First Congregational church for fifty years through many difficult and trying times in the Colonies. He died in 1694 at the age of 84, a much respected and beloved clergyman.
John Bishop is buried in St Johns and St. Andrews Episcopal Cemetery in Stamford. Will 16 Nov. 1694, proved 12 Mar. 1694/5; to be buried between his two wives Rebecca and Joanna who [he says with comfortable assurance] are fallen asleep in Jesus and gone to Heaven before me; I feel that the gospel is going from New England for the neglect and contempt it hath found here; sons Stephen, Joseph, Ebenezer, Benjamin; dau. Whiting.
Joseph Bishop, Exec'r of father's will, set out land, 18 Oct. 1695, to Mr. Joseph Whiting of Southampton, in consideration of legacy due him from will of my father Bishop.
John married (1) Rebecca Goodyear; (2) Joanna Boyce, widow of Capt. Thomas Willett and previously of Rev. Peter Prudden of Milford, and dau. of Rev. John Boyse of Halifax, co. York, Eng.
Bishop, Ebenezer, Dr., (died 12 March 1710/11, age 43 yrs), son of John Bishop & Rebecca Goodyear. Buried at Noroton River Cemetery, on the south side of the Post Road, near Brookside Road, Darien, CT.
Joanna Boyce, was married twice before becoming Rev. John Bishop's 2nd wife. Joanna Boyse, was the daughter of Rev John & Joanna (Stowe) Boyse. On July 2, 1637. She married, as his second wife, the Rev. Peter Prudden of Milford, while he was visiting Massachusetts. She married (2) Thomas Willett in Milford, 19 September 1671. There were no children of her marriage to Willett.
Rev. Peter Prudden, b. in December 1601. He was initially educated at the Merchant Taylor's School at London (1616-1617) and on June 20, 1620 entered Emmanuel College at Cambridge as a "sizar" or non-scholarship student. He later preached in Hertfordshire, England (about 25 miles from London) until prior to arriving in New England.
He sailed from London arriving at Boston June 26, 1637 with John Davenport, Theophilus Eaton and Rev. Samuel Eaton, who soon founded present-day New Haven, Conn. Rev. Prudden's first wife, Jane Thomas, daughter of William Thomas, Gent. of Wales, presumably died prior to his coming to America. While still in the Boston area, he married his second wife, Joanna Boyes, purportedly on July 2, 1637 at Boston, or only six days after his arrival in New England. But this stated date of their marriage is unlikely. Joanna was the youngest daughter of Rev. John & Joanna (Stowe) Boyes of Halifax, England, latter both deceased by 1630.
Rev. Prudden initially declined an invitation to settle as pastor of the church at Dedham southwest of Boston instead he preached for a short time at Wethersfield, Conn. When Davenport and Eaton's newly formed New Haven Colony purchased a tract called Wepawaug from the Indians, and renamed it Milford, Rev. Prudden and a flock of settlers from New Haven settled there in 1639. On April 8, 1640, Rev. Prudden was ordained the first pastor of the Milford church.
Rev. Prudden was given Milford homelot #40, the eastern end of which was "Peter Prudden's Garden" later becoming the first burial ground at Milford. It was used for this purpose until 1675 when his garden was expanded into what is now the Milford Cemetery. Rev. Prudden, himself, as well as his infant son Peter, were buried in his garden. His will dated July 26, 1656 was followed by the inventory of his estate on September 2, 1656. While it is claimed he died in July 1656, one's estate inventory was usually taken within days of a person's death in order to preserve that which was of value to pay for the deceased's debts. This suggests he more likely died in August versus July 1656.
Rev. Peter's 2nd wife Joanna was the mother of his nine known children: Joanna (Thos. Chittenden), Mary (Rev. Zachariah Walker), twins Elizabeth (Jehu Burr) and Samuel (Grace Judson), Rev. John (Grace), Abigail (Joseph Walker), Sarah (Gideon Allen), Peter (d. in infancy), and Mildred (Silvanus Baldwin).
After Rev. Prudden's death, the widow Joanna became the 2nd wife of Capt. Thomas Willet, formerly of Plymouth, Mass., the founder of Swansea, Mass. and in 1666 the first English mayor of present-day New York City. Willet died in 1674 at Swansea. The widow Willet subsequently became the 2nd wife of Rev. John Bishop of the Stamford First Congregational Church. He died at Stamford in 1694 having for 50 years been the Stamford church's 2nd minister. She wrote her will November 8, 1681 at Stamford with her inventory taken March 22, 1682/3. Her will names her two sons, Samuel and John as joint executors coupled with daughters Joanna, Elizabeth, Abigail, Sarah, Mildred, and two unnamed children of her deceased daughter Mary Walker. She died at Stamford in early 1683, but her place of interment at Stamford remains unknown.
In his will, Rev. Bishop asks to be buried between his two wives.
Early History of Stamford, CT
On July 30, 1630, about 40 Puritans who had recently migrated from England, under leadership of Sir Richard Saltonstall, established a church in Watertown, Massachusetts. They chose Rev. George Phillips from Norfolk County, England, as their first pastor. This Watertown Colony was the first congregation to choose, ordain, and install its own pastor, thus making it the first Congregational Church in this country.
Five years later, in 1635, seven of the Watertown Puritans “removed” to the Connecticut River Valley and gathered as a church in Wethersfield, Connecticut. With this move, the Wethersfield congregation became the second church organized and located in Connecticut (the first being in Windsor, also in 1635), and one of the earliest Congregational churches to be formed in what became the United States of America 141 years later.
The Wethersfield congregation grew, as did the dissension among the members, and after six years, only seven members remained. As a result, four of the seven united with other local planters who were not voting members of the church. Together, these four churchmen, 24 other men (non-Congregationalists), and their families sought a new place to worship and live. The New Haven Colony, at the suggestion of Rev. John Davenport, offered land to these 28 families within the New Haven Colony territory at Rippowams, now Stamford. In the summer of 1641, these families laid the foundations of the First Congregational Church of Stamford. Because the four voting members who separated from Wethersfield constituted the majority of the voting members, they gained the right to take the church records of organization, and thus, the First Congregational Church of Stamford was officially organized six years before the actual founding of Stamford.
John Bishop was the 2nd pastor of this church, serving for over 50 years, from 1644 to 1694.
The Will of Rev. John Bishop as transcribed by Marjorie J. Caskey in "Falling Leaves: A History of the Holmes Family and Allied Lines"
"This 9th Month ye 15 day 94 (16 Nov., 1694) For as much as all are mortall and ought to be all way redy for sudain deth if it So Come, as it doth to many, and lest I should have no Liberty of speech at deathe, as was ye case of my dear wife: I desire this my stand valid & In force as my Last will & testament. I now have use of my understanding, I Comende my Soule Into the hand of God who gavi it; and my body when ded to be decently buryed by those that survive me, & if it may be, to be Laide between ye two Graves of my dear wives, Rebecka and Joana, who are fallen a Sleep in Jesus & Gon to heaven before me. Concerning my dear Children, all of them, This is my Will & Solemn Charge, yt they Labour, all of them, to Get Interest in Christ & be pertakers of his Sactifieing and Saveing Grace in this their day of Grace, which may not Long Last; for I feat yt ye Gospell is Going from New England for the Neglect & Contempt it hath found hear. If then they draw nigh unto God in God's way, take hold of his Covenant, Ingageing themselves in open and visable subjection unto the Lord & his kingdom; & that they Indeavour to walke worth of the Lord in his holy fear all there dayes, keeping allways under the meens of Grace if it may be had, whatsoever it Cost them; that they Carry with reverence & due respects to Christ's Faithfull minesters, being all that is duty for their uphoulding & due Incoragment (apparently a reflection of his difficulties with the local Quakers); That they carry Inoffencively toward all and among themselves, in peac & Love, without any brotherly Strife & Contention, and with mutuall helpfullness ont to another, the Elder takeing care of the younger, and the younger submiting to the Elder, as it meet in the Lord; & that they seeke & observe the advice of their friends In matters Concerning there Estate, that there be no defference upon that account. I shall Endeavour to do things as well as I Can to prevent after trouble, but where the father falls short and cannot forsee what is most Expedient in all points, Let Cheldren Labour to be Content with what is don by there father in his Love to them all. Concerning the deposall of what the Lord hath Given to me, I declare it to be my will that it should be after this manner; Imprimis, I Setle on my Son Steeven all that he hath receaved of mee and my Estate, as house & house hold Goods and Lands, and of which I Gave him Lately, Viz: the Eight Acres beyond Benjemen Greens. I Give him all that my be due to me and my Estate Till my death. I Give him all my Right of Land In y horse pasture and my 200 Acres Granted by the Court & Recorded, he paying what was due to Mr. Brochit, who Layed it oute, as his Letter Shows. Item. I Give to my Son Joseph (parcels of land)...to my son Ebenezer, what was my Right and his Brother Joseph's part in that which was Foodman Potter's Lot (and other land)...to my Daughter Whiteing, as ading to what She hath had tho all to Little, and Sory I can do no more, therty pinds with my (clock?) and all belongings to it, and my Silver Kan, with the Six yards of Black Stufe Sent from Yorke. To Strengthen my Executors to pay the s'd therty pounds to my daughter, I do Give them power to Sell my Land on Long neck. I Constitute my tow Sons, Steven and Joseph, to be Executors of this, my Last will, & desire brother Bell, Brother Ambler & Brother Weed to Assist them in what deficulty Soever my be in any matter, yt there may be no deference nor disagreement among my Children by any meens, as I have Charged them. I Charge my Executors to Se all accounts Cleared and All Just debts paid; to whom I Give all the rest of my Este no otherwise desposedoff, and Invest them with power to Comand and receave whatsoever Shall be due to me..."
The will was signed by John Bishop, with Jonathan Sellick, Sen'r, and John Davenport as witnesses.
Various Letters of Rev. John Bishop
Rev. Bishop was a close friend of Increase Mather, the president of Harvard College from 1685 to 1701 Harvard was established in order "to train preachers in approved Boston Puritan thinking." There exist in the Massachusetts Historical Society several originals of letters written by John Bishop to his friend. One such letter describes a shocking event in Stamford in 1676:
"An horrid murder committed among us, here at Stamford. A brother killing his own dear sister, a very good woman that loved him dearly but was ill requited, killed her with an ax, mauling and mashing her head to many pieces in a barbarous & bloody manner."
The man, Benjamin Tuttle aged twenty-eight at the time, had murdered his sister, Sarah Slason. The case was referred to the court in Hartford, where Benjamin was convicted and sentenced to hang.
During the decade of the 1670s, many prominent families in Stamford suffered loss from illness. In yet another letter, John writes of the rampant sickness of 1676:
"…we have all been down and some of us dangerously sick, but graciously restored. We buried six in one week in our little town; near 20 this spring; about 100 sick at once."
And at the loss of his wife, Rebecca in 1679, John writes:
"It hath pleased Him who is disposer of all, to lay me under bereavement of my dear yoke-fellow, a great breach upon my poor family."
To Increase Mather, Stamford 5 m. 11 d. 1678
"Reverend Sr. & Dear Brother, Yours of 3 mo. 28, '78, I received; and as touching reports you enquire (though in great haste, by reason of the vessels hastening away) I canot but make a short returne. There have been, doubtles things of a prodigious nre. among vs, by which we should be awakened; but it is to (be) bewailed, that the awful workes of God are so variously & uncertainly spoken of; as many times I find that we know not what to beleeve, nor how to be affected as we should with what we heave. ... As touching the Earthquake lately in these parts, I can speak to that as being sensible thereof, & many others in this Town, & other Townes also preceived the same; though more westward of vs it was more preceived, & eastward, lesse. It was on an evening after the Sabbath viz. 12 m 3. 77. Likewise on 4 m. 20, 78, a like noise was heard here by myself & many others, who took it to be an Earthquake, rhater than thunder, considering circumstances, though the terraemocon not so perceptible. On the last day, same month, here was a violent storme of hail in several plantacons, one west & others east of vs, that did much damage as its said, & I do verily beleeve, though I forbear to mention the quantity of that hail & the effects of it, because I canot fully beleeve all thats said of it. At Stamford it was only a storme of wind & rain, & that but short. This 5 m. 6 & 7 dayes, it pleased the Lord, after a great & threatning drought, to send a plentifull, sober & soaking rain, that sweetly refreshed the earth & revived its dying product."
A Good Wife by John Bishop 1687
Possibly Stamford's first book. Bishop, John The Fruitful Vine ... . 1687.
This little book was printed by Samuel Green, Jr. at his press in downtown Boston near the present site of Jordan Marsh department store. Comparing it with SRW 1685 and JOF. 1687 will instantly relate it to his work of that time. The ragged and careless typesetting, poor inking, defective numbering, and other oddities are identical. Specifically, one can see the lone (DAPO #602) inverted "fleur-de-lis" in the long headpiece of page 1 of AGW and page 1 of SRW. Possibly an identifying stratagem. The more complete title page of ARB and the scholarly opinion of ACB confirm the printer as Green and the date as 1687. The only known reference to AGW is found in HPA but has some misdata although it does have the year correct. After 300 years it has resurfaced.
Provenance. The manuscript was probably brought to Boston by Zachariah Walker, a step-son-in-law of John Bishop and at the time minister in a near-by CT parish. He was born in Boston GHUS in Harvard class of "1656" and was known to be in Boston in 1685, perhaps bringing the ms for SRW. His father, Robert, an original settler (DSS) was buried 30 May 1687 and "ZW" as he signed the preface to AGW was likely attending family matters soon after. There is a distinct possibility that AGW was a replacement for the CT election sermon of May 1687 by Joseph Eliot (DNR2) which was unavailable or "unacceptable" as it is not known to be printed.
A long trail of misinformation about AGW has complicated the task of firmly identifying it. Harvard catalogue reads "(Boston) printed by (John Foster?)" who had died in 1681. (DAB) The microform card reads "The Fruitful Wife . . . 1690" perhaps misreading the terse inscription by "Abigail Mather, 1690". The Mather pedigree in MCA shows that the most likely "Abigail" was Abigail Phillips who married Cotton Mather. Since she owned her copy of AGW by 1690 it may have been inspiration for Cotton Mather's own bride's book ODZ 1692 (not 1682, HPA) as shown by BOCM. They were both meant to be given away which may explain why AGW is not listed in the books of John Bishop (BJB}, nor in Evans (ABE). Rare indeed." John Bishop IV, p. 21.
1. SRW Sound Repentance, S. Wakeman, 1685, - at NYPL. Hereafter simply cited as SRW.
2. JOF Joy of Faith, S. Lee, 1687, Harvard Houghton Library
3. DAPO Dictionary of Colonial American Printing Ornaments, E. Reilly, 1978.
4. AGW fragment of A Good Wife in possession of ARB (Arthur R. Bishop, Manchester, England - via XGA [Exchange for Genealogical Archives, Boston/London]. see also:
a. CPB Cheerfully Provide, fragment in possession of Bishop family in Maine.
b. GMB Godly Man's Blessing (AGW) via XGA from Virginia Bishop family.
*These fragments, along with "The Fruitful Vine" once owned by Abigail Mather, now at Harvard Houghton Library (whose staff deserves the fullest acclaim for celerity and patience) comprise all the known portions of "A Good Wife". Hereafter simply cited as AGW.
5. ARB Arthur R. Bishop, Manchester England - via XGA [Exchange for Genealogical Archives, Boston/London]
6. ACB A(lbert) C(arlos) Bates, Connecticut Historical Society, letter to E. L. Gay 5 April 1911.
7. HPA History of Printing in America, Isaiah Thomas, 1874, American Antiquarian Society. Hereafter simply cited as HPA
8. GHUS Graduates of Harvard University, J. L. Sibley, 1881.
9. DSS Diary of Samuel Sewall, 1674-1718, M. H. Thomas, 1973
10. DNR2 Diary of Noadiah Russell 1687, Connecticut Historical Society, Hartford, 1934.
11. DAB Dictionary of American Biography, 1917
12. MCA Magnalia Christi Americana, Cotton Mather, Massachusetts Historical Society, 1852
13. ODZ Ornaments ...Daughters of Zion, Cotton Mather, 1692 at Boston Athenaeum
14. BOCM Bibliography of Cotton Mather Works, T. J. Holmes, 1940
15. BJB Books of John Bishop taken 3 Jan 1694/5 by John Davenport III - at Connecticut State Library
16. ABE American Bibliography, Charles Evans, 1941
All notes and abbreviations by John Bishop IV. Numbering of notes for this bibliography by Ronald Marcus
"A good Wife is like a fruitful vine, in Rendering herself delightful, Pleasant, Amiable to her husband. The vine is a sightly, delectable, PLEASANT plant. 'The Vineyard of the Lord of hosts is the house of Israel, and the men of judah are His pleasant plants." Isa. 5.7. It were easie to enlarge here, I may but hint at things. How delectable is the vine in all respects!
The SMELL of the Vine is pleasant. 'The vines give a good Smell.' Cant.2.13. So the Behaviour, Carriage, Jestures, Words, Actions of a good wife, favour and smell of LOVE; a good smell indeed: her Bed & Board is perfumed with Better spice than Mirrhe, Aloes, and Cinamon: or than all the 'powders of the merchant.' Oyntment and Perfume do not so rejoice the heart of a men, as doth the Sweetness of a good Wife by hearty Affection.
The SHADE of the vine is comfortable and refreshing. Therefore Arbours are made of them: And the happiness, the tranquility, the Halcyon dayes which the people of Israel enjoyed under Solomon, is thus set forth: 'Judah and Israel dwelt safely every man under his VINE, and under his fig-tree, &c. I King. 4. 25. So doth a Good Wife render her self exceeding comfortable and Refreshing to her husband. When Good-man comes in Weary from his work, Sweating , melted out of the field; or comes down out of his Study almost 'exanimated', having his spirits exhausted and drunk up; O how doth the Amiable, Loving, Tender, Careful, Cheerful carriage of a good wife Recreate and Refresh Him, like reposing himself under a shady Vine." John Bishop, pp. 35-36.
325. Bishop, John. The Fruitful Vine Growing in the Good Man's Garden; OR, The Godly Man's BLESSING in A GOOD WIFE, Shadowed out under that excellent Emblem and apt Similitude of A Fruitful Vine; As it was discoursed, illustrated, and laid forth In a SERMON, preached at the WEDDING of that pious and worthy Pair, Mr. J. W. and Mrs. R. B. Stanford in N. E. Octob. 28, 1684, By their reverened freind & kinsman Mr. J. B. (Boston, Massachusetts); 1687.
The Harvard University copy bears an inscription on the leaf opposite title page "Abigail Mather 1690" and a library stamp stating, "HARVARD COLLEGE LIBRARY / FROM THE LIBRARY OF / ERNEST LEWIS GAY / JUNE 15, 1927"
Abstract: "Psal. 128.3 the former part of the verse; Thy Wife shall be like a fruitful Vine, &c. THis Psalm, with the eight foregoing and six following ( fifteen in all ) are intituled, Songs of Degrees : not because they were to be sung upon certain Degrees of Stairs or Ascents of the Temple, as some have thought, nor yet because of the Rising of the Tune [ page 1 }....... For the Psalm it self ( to give you a brief blush of the Context ) the whole Psalm is expressive of the Blessedness of the godley man, or the truly blessed man is here set forth unto us.
1. By his Qualities. 2. By the Blessings that attend him. Or we have him described. 1. By what he is, 2. By what he has or he shall have. [ pages 2-3 ] ..............
To return to our Text, which lies amongst those particular, private, Family-Blessings here promised to the man fearing GOD. There are three great Blessings of this kind here mentioned.
1. That of a prosperous outward estate in a mans Labor & Business. Thou shalt eat the labour of thine hands, happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with thee. This is a great blessing, and as such promised, Plal. 1-3. Deut. 28.8. The contrary whereunto is threatned as a heavy Curse, ver. 31.32 of that Chapter.
2. That of a good, a vertuous WIFE. Thy Wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house. A mercy of this kind amongst those of the first Magnitude; as we shall have further occasion to say.
3. That of hopeful Children, a prosperous-promising Posterity [ pages 5-6 ]
1st. To those that have Wives to get ..
Is a good Wife so great a blessing? It concerns you that have wives to seek, to look well about you. If anywhere, in any thing any of the concerns of this life, the Proverb would be remembred, it would be here, Look, before you leap. Is a good wife so great a blessing? don't wink and chuse. Truly, they do little better, that chuse by Affection, not by Judgment. Let not a vain, empty, rash, hasty head-king fancy, transport you in a matter of so great Concernment. Take diliberation, go to counsel, use your best discretion, be well advised : with good advice make war. with good advice make your match. As in Projects of war [ latin quotation ] they that miss it once seldom recover; so to err once in the choice of a Wife, is ( usually ) to be undone for ever. And let me further say, you ought to give the more earnest heed as to this matter, because (as the Earl of Salisbury told his son ) He that seeks out for a wife, goes for a Lottery, where there are a hundred Blanks for one Prize. Remember, as he that finds a wife, a good wife, finds a good thing, so, that such wives are hard to find; who can find a vertuous woman? I have reason to think, that Solomon spake it very sensibly & experimentally : and unless the world be well amended since his time, you may look among a good-many, or rather a great many, before you find a good one; se Ecstes. 7.28 Is a good wife so great a mercy, endeavour, Sirs, to get good ones. And How? Why, be such as the Text speaks of, such, as to whom the promise is here made, fear God, and walk in his waies. A prudent wife is of the Lord : a good wife is a Boon that God gives to a man that is good in His sight. Get into God's Books : the great blessing of a good wife is an Act of Grace, an Act of favour from God. [ pages 14-16 ]
Nor meerly love her but live joyfully with her. Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest. &C. Eccl. 9.9 " John Bishop
(Note: misspellings in the text are as in the original)